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		<title>Very sick&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Sep 2010 08:00:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So it&#8217;s been like, over a week. Maria and I are both sick. We think it happened because of all the MBA people she was interacting with. The theory goes, we have close to 100 people, coming from different and perhaps, weird, countries, flying long distances on planes with perhaps even, weirder, people, all being [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So it&#8217;s been like, over a week. Maria and I are both sick. We think it happened because of all the MBA people she was interacting with. The theory goes, we have close to 100 people, coming from different and perhaps, weird, countries, flying long distances on planes with perhaps even, weirder, people, all being forced to &#8220;orient&#8221; together in close quarters for long periods of time every day for long numbers of days, not getting enough sleep, etc. I think that&#8217;s how it happened. I even remember that one evening I had met up with Maria and some of her fellow MBA Orienteers, and they were sick, and it was right after that when I first started feeling sick, and it&#8217;s just continued. This means that she actually missed the last week of her orientation, which wasn&#8217;t that big of a loss apparently, and she didn&#8217;t want to go anyways, I mean, what kind of school plans a 3 week long orientation period where they don&#8217;t actually teach you anything useful and interesting like how to use the library and such? It was mostly corporate sponsored &#8220;events&#8221; touting in grandiose terms about &#8220;leadership&#8221; and uh, well, I don&#8217;t actually know as I was only along for some of it and not all of it, but either way, suffice it to say no one was excited about the last week of orientation, and though we were both horribly sick during it, it was nice to have a week to just hang out together at home and rest up. The worst of it is actually this obnoxious cough that&#8217;s lingered for a very long time, on top of the general flu like symptoms. The cough sucks because it keeps us both up at night. Like, last night, I don&#8217;t think I got more than a couple hours of sleep because every time I&#8217;d get close to falling asleep, I&#8217;d have a coughing fit, or she&#8217;d have one, and it just sucks. Plus I can&#8217;t regulate my temperature properly at the moment, which also suck. But school&#8217;s officially began now, yesterday that is, with her first day of class. I think she&#8217;s liking her classes, and her colleagues and fellow students. We were actually late to her class this morning because we didn&#8217;t get nearly enough sleep last night and though I&#8217;m sure my alarm went off, by the time we checked it, it was already 8:15am with class starting at 8:30am heh. I assume everything&#8217;s alright though, I haven&#8217;t heard from her yet, as she still has class right now. I&#8217;m sure she&#8217;s having a great time though :)</p>
<p>The IFC also had its first ever Gala Evening on September 11th. Inauspicious day I know, but it doesn&#8217;t seem to have made much of a difference in this country. It took place at Capital M Beijing, a very lovely restaurant at Qianmen actually. I was surprised by how fancy it was on the inside, and it had a huge patio with wonderful views of the gates and the Forbidden City. Perfect on a warm summer evening actually, very comfortable. The food looked good, though we didn&#8217;t actually eat any. I was there as a volunteer for the IFC, helping coordinate the evening, handle registrations, payments, attendee corralling, and singing even. We sang 3 songs between courses, to general appreciation. Either way, this just means that it was a very long and tiring day, but still nice! We&#8217;re thinking of heading on back to the restaurant at some point, get a nice, fancy dinner. Or apparently they have a lovely Sunday brunch special on the patio, which sounded like fun also. Another member of the IFC, Amanda, suggested it, because the price is like a quarter of the normal dinner prices, but the food is still good, and there are champagne cocktails.</p>
<p>Otherwise, my father has succeeded in selling off the rest of his shares in the restaurant, 25% of which the sales revenue goes to Maria, at some point, which will be great. I have a job offer jointly from FTC/Matrix, my father and cousin&#8217;s, respectively, companies, though they haven&#8217;t paid me anything, and have kinda gone silent as far as work for me goes. I was supposed to go on down south a bit to put up some wireless sensor network thingie, work on some remote medicine stuff, etc., but apparently there&#8217;s been some miscommunication between the multiple parties and what responsibilities were meant to be delegated, and I kind of feel like I&#8217;m left out in the blue with nothing to do, and maybe nothing coming to me. I was supposed to be paid already, and again at the beginning of October. I even turned down yet another job offer from another company because of this, and it&#8217;ll actually really piss me off if I don&#8217;t get paid. I made this mistake once, turning down a job for the job at the restaurant, and this is the second time I&#8217;ve turned down a job for some family opportunity and if it doesn&#8217;t work out well, huh, I guess that&#8217;ll just suck, short answer, huh? </p>
<p>Either way, it does feel like things are coming together, school, relationship, job, apartments, visa, etc., which is absolutely great actually. It&#8217;s taken a bit, but maybe it&#8217;ll start working out soon.</p>
<p>I also hadn&#8217;t blogged in a while, which is mostly the point of this entry. We&#8217;ve been sick, that&#8217;s all, and very, very busy. But as I look at the last post date, it hasn&#8217;t actually been that long somehow, just like, a little over a week. I wonder if it&#8217;s really the fact that being sick, being unable to sleep, being generically uncomfortable, has just made the time drag. Though we had a good time last week, hanging out together, sick, at home, watching movies and TV. I guess this week&#8217;s a bit different now, and everything feels more, specific in how they bother me, like the sickness, the lack of commitment from my &#8220;job,&#8221; because Maria&#8217;s started classes and is much busier during the day, and it would be great if I had things to do during the day as well as I had planned on it, but well, I&#8217;ve already written about how annoyed I am at my family, and I guess I may get even more annoyed at them&#8230;what does it take to have a steady job eh?</p>
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		<title>Generic Style Updates</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Aug 2010 05:11:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I haven&#8217;t done proper non-project specific updates in a while, so I thought I&#8217;d go into it a bit. 1) I repaired my bike today. I hadn&#8217;t ridden it for close to a month, and it&#8217;s been raining, then hot, then humid, so it was in very, very poor condition. I had to get one [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I haven&#8217;t done proper non-project specific updates in a while, so I thought I&#8217;d go into it a bit.</p>
<p>1) I repaired my bike today. I hadn&#8217;t ridden it for close to a month, and it&#8217;s been raining, then hot, then humid, so it was in very, very poor condition. I had to get one of the tires replaced, the inner-tube-y thingie replaced, and the chain replaced. This ran another 80RMB. So far, on top of all the other repairs done to the bike, I&#8217;m at 320RMB so far invested in this bike. You know what&#8217;s interesting though, it&#8217;s really much easier to ride now that I&#8217;ve had it fixed up a bit! I had noticed the last couple of times I&#8217;d ridden in it a month or so ago that it was exceedingly difficult to ride, get up to speed, or keep speed up. It&#8217;ll just grind. It&#8217;s so easy now though!</p>
<p>2) Once repaired, I rode it around, quite exhilarating actually because the weather&#8217;s gotten a little better. I overheard some people talking who said it felt like Fall all of a sudden, and I&#8217;d have to agree. It&#8217;s still hot out, but far less humid, to the point where it&#8217;s actually reasonable to be out despite the heat! I guess it really is because of humidity that it&#8217;s so miserable in this country. I knew it had something to do with it because I&#8217;d never minded the weather in the States when it would get just as if not hotter in LA, but it was always a dry heat, a good kind of bearable heat, not like this crappy humid heat where you work up a sweat just walking down the block. Bah!</p>
<p>3) Ah I also biked by BICD where Connections is to pick up some mail. There weren&#8217;t any, my father had picked it up apparently. The point though&#8230;the restaurant&#8217;s open again!? I spent a long time thinking to myself as I stood in line buying a chicken roll &#8220;I don&#8217;t know how I feel about it.&#8221; But then I realized, I feel bad about it, angry, betrayed. I can&#8217;t believe they opened the restaurant again!? These people are insane, and I think I really don&#8217;t like them. They cheated us, out of money, out of time, out of effort. They shouldn&#8217;t have re-opened the restaurant without telling us, and if they were going to, I&#8217;d like to think we&#8217;d have some say in them. They owe us money! Hmmmmmm&#8230;</p>
<p>4) That&#8217;s all that&#8217;s really going on now, though I bought upgrades for my laptop HD and RAM, and Starcraft II should be coming soon! :) I also had a REALLY good talk with Maria and that made me REALLY happy!</p>
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		<title>a confessional tone</title>
		<link>http://textures-tones.com/2010/06/21/a-confessional-tone/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Jun 2010 18:10:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[i apologize for the lack of capitals in this post, but i&#8217;m posting from my ipad and i disabled the auto correct feature because i found it to be less than intuitive about what i actually wanted to type. i also apologize for the general lack of posts on this here blog, but we&#8217;ve both [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>i apologize for the lack of capitals in this post, but i&#8217;m posting from my ipad and i disabled the auto correct feature because i found it to be less than intuitive about what i actually wanted to type. i also apologize for the general lack of posts on this here blog, but we&#8217;ve both been quite busy in one way or the other, more so in the one way for her and the other for me, but what can you do. and i&#8217;m mostly posting now because maria asked me to, and thought it might be good for me, and even jokingly said that it&#8217;s close to the only way that she&#8217;s able to find out what&#8217;s going on with the sean. so here goes.</p>
<p>i would like to comment a bit on the odd day to day expenses that occur in th is country. now it is very cheap, unreasonably so even, to eat out, buy groceries, cook, find entertainment, see friends, etc., so that in general, one does not actually need to make a lot to live very well. we buy massive bags worth of fresh produce for less than 30rmb, all the groceries we could want for less than 50rmb, plus fruit and freshly prepared cold chinese salads and we&#8217;re looking at no more than the equivalent of 20 dollars and we&#8217;re set for at least a week. by some estimate, one only needs a quarter of that to live very comfortably in this country. but then, there&#8217;s rent.</p>
<p>now maybe i&#8217;m unreasonable, but i have a certain standard that i find hard to give up, especially when it concerns the place that i call home, the bathroom that i do my business in, and the kitchen that i prepare meals for the ones i care about in. you can rent a place very cheaply, no more than 30 dollars a month, but it will be underground, is a literal room, have a shared bathroom with no gauranteed hot water, no gaurantee of windows, and definitely okitchen htough you can bring your own electric stove and many people do. that&#8217;s the bottom of the pole.</p>
<p>and then there&#8217;s the chinese style apartments which are, for most intents and purposes alright, but shoddy, feeling like they&#8217;re falling apart, and they are, with no regard for the common spaces of the buildings meaning you can be on the highest floor and all the lights will be out in the hallways so you&#8217;ll feel like you&#8217;re living in a cave. and the bathrooms, lord save me from the bathrooms. so that&#8217;s like, the middle, wh ich, unfortunately, from a standards point of view, i find difficult to accept.</p>
<p>now i realize this might make me seem like a snob or something, but for the same reason that i never understood why people don&#8217;t care about the quality of their hotel rooms while on vacation based on the flimsy pretense that they don&#8217;t plan to stay in that that often didn&#8217;t and doesn&#8217;t make sense to me i mean, you need a place to stay right, some place comfortable because what happens if you&#8217;re sick or too drunk you don&#8217;t want to passout in a trash heap i can&#8217;t come to terms with an apartment that i dread the thougt of taking a shower in, which is most chinese apartments. but that makes up the middle tier as far as quality goes.</p>
<p>then there are those places meant for foreigners to stay in, built from the ground up for them, and are of decent quality. noe i say decent only because even they could use a good bit of work. one common complaint is the abundance of mold on the walls of even the most expensive, and i do mean most expensive as these places can run for close to western prices, of places just still feel like they are falling apart, and they are. but, you can find places that will satisfy my standards, but again, they&#8217;re expensive.</p>
<p>which brings us to the point that i find myself in an odd employment state. you see, i&#8217;m no longer. the foreigner who&#8217;s willing to relocate and work in beijing, i&#8217;m the foreigner who&#8217;s already here and is looking for a job, with the major difference being that while the former has an allure of self sacrifice, and thus the appropriate compensation to go along with what ever jobs may fall under that category, the latter does not, and will pay close to absolutely nothing for work that in any other country will earn me a decent living. bottom line, i can&#8217;t make more than 700 dollars a month doing full time programming work in this god forsaken country. now that isn&#8217;t actually bad by chinese standards, and were my only goal to pay for our day to day expenses, i&#8217;m golden, but i need to pay for rent, and i need a place that i am comfortable taking a shower in, and that&#8217;s where the conflict comes into play, namely i for the moment just, can&#8217;t.</p>
<p>and the irony of it all, my father just got a new place in beijing and it meets our standards, and is cheaper by far than anything else out there we&#8217;ve found, but is in the wrong part of town, and i think that makes all the difference.</p>
<p>but the plan is to continue searching, both for a job and an apartment, and i think we&#8217;re going to venture way the far out of town to a place that&#8217;s still subway accessible, and easilly accessible might i add, but hopefully very inexpensive by virtue of it being far away, and we might be lucky out there.</p>
<p>let&#8217;s see, other problems that plague the sean. he needs to leave again out of the country by july 15 to get on his last entry into the country. and this will be the last one as his visa expires at the end of august, as in proper expires and he will need to go back to the united states to get a new one, which he really does not want to. for reasons beyond his countrol and knowledge and patience to sort through his working visa still hasn&#8217;t come through, and neither had maria&#8217;s, but she no longer needs to worry because a) she&#8217;s going back to the states anyways and b) she will get a student visa through tsinghua. the sean&#8217;s plan though is to get on his last entry, as cheaply as possible, then at the last mi nute switch while in country to a 90 day single entry visa, which he knows he can, so he cwn stay in the country until the end of november by which time hopefully some other, better solution would have presented itself. at the moment he doesn&#8217;t care which: his father comes throug, he gets employed elsewhere, or he pays somebody 1000 dollars and they give him the visa in that shady, underhanded, sort of grey area kind of way. it really doesn&#8217;t matter.</p>
<p>back to i here, i think. i had also planned on joining maria in the states and nyc for her internship this summer, but the feasibility of it is minimal. the expenses unfortunatly just far outweigh the gain, and if i go, i have to plan on staying, which is a decision i&#8217;m not yet ready to make. i definitely want to be here when maria starts her school so if i head back to the states it will be after that so no point making the expense now. startup expenses in general back in the states is also just in general prohibitive so even if i wanted to, maybe the best i can do is go back to los angeles which actually doesn&#8217;t sound that appealing. i&#8217;m kinda holding out that china will still work out in a bit way and we&#8217;ll all make our personal fortunes here and change the world for the better.</p>
<p>which at least there&#8217;s still a chance of, and having lost most of my steam for blogging, i will end here by saying that no matter what, the sean is trying to be optimistic, and hey, he hadn&#8217;t thought of this but maybe he and maria can get married; that&#8217;ll solve his visa problems.</p>
<p>oh and the restaurant is a complete bust incidentally. to summarize in the quickest way possible, there&#8217;s been management issues from the get go, the owners no longer like each other, for some reason one half viewed my desire to no longer be their full time employee as a sign that they should exit the business as well so they gave my dad some time to find someone to buy them out, and since it obviously didn&#8217;t happen fast enough they&#8217;ve been threatening to close down the business and then wanted to buy us out which, well, hey, seemed like quite a good deal actually because we were done with the stupid thing anyway and didn&#8217;t want to have anything to do with it and if you&#8217;ll listen to my father about it, he&#8217;s convinced the entire thing was a conspiracy to get the entire business by the other half owners at a greatly depreciated value by driving me out, driving the restaurant down, then lording over us the fact that they have more money to convince us to sell out to them, but things really came to a head when, afraid that they might steal our business licenses my father put up fake copies on the walls and, lo and behold, the next day they were stolen from us, and then when maria and i went to go check our mail because we&#8217;re using the restaurant as our mailing address because it&#8217;s convenient we find that they had changed the locks on us and were no longer able to get in, and that they had fired all the staff and closed the restaurant without telling us! what is wrong with these people? they were just in the middle of negotiating how to buy our half our when all of a sudden, chaos. so now maria and i have no place to get our mail which is a) a shame and b) just inconvenient as far as timing goes because we&#8217;re expecting her all important actual enrollment confirmation packet from tsinghua which should also have the confirmation that the chinese government is going to pay for all her tuition and housing and give her a monthly stipend to live on in. that was sarcastic by the way, though it&#8217;ll be cool if it happened that way, but we are actually waiting for this packet and it&#8217;s being sent to the restaurant and we&#8217;re not sure how to get it anymore because these people are insane!</p>
<p>&#8230;</p>
<p>so here&#8217;s to hoping it all comes together, heh, and that those we&#8217;ve wronged or disappointed in the past may forgive and move forward with us towards a brighter and better future.</p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 May 2010 17:25:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve not had any dreams lately, at least none that I can remember. When I just wake up, and I know I had a really good dream, one full of wonders and fantasy and whatever else makes such things perhaps a bit better than real life, it slips away, much quicker than before, well before [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve not had any dreams lately, at least none that I can remember. When I just wake up, and I know I had a really good dream, one full of wonders and fantasy and whatever else makes such things perhaps a bit better than real life, it slips away, much quicker than before, well before I&#8217;ve had a chance to write it down. So I mean, it&#8217;s an excuse really, but this is why I&#8217;ve not written down any dreams lately. Also sometimes they&#8217;re just mundane, like the one where I dreamed Maria said one thing to me and it turns out she actually said another or nothing at all, ones that happen after I&#8217;ve moved from the bedroom to the couch to continue sleeping so that I can keep her company, albeit unconsciously, probably after the point in the day when one should still be asleep and so perhaps my punishment is boring, normal every day dreams. And maybe it is a punishment; maybe I should pay more attention to real life.</p>
<p>Which lately hasn&#8217;t been all that great. Lots have happened actually, and I can&#8217;t believe it&#8217;s been twenty days since I last posted anything, since anybody last posted anything here. I wonder if it&#8217;s possible to get my membership with expat blog revoked? It&#8217;s not like I&#8217;ve been doing anything horribly expat-y lately, though we did buy a water cooler, and that was an adventure in and of itself.</p>
<p>So Maria had been feeling dehydrated, and so have I frankly, and the water in China is a little dodgy and though you can boil it and clean it of whatever bacteria might be in it, we couldn&#8217;t help the film of sediment that formed on our water kettle nor the layer of detritus on the bottom of our water bottle into which we poured our boiled water. This meant we didn&#8217;t have much faith in it actually, and have substituted water when thirsty with perhaps not too healthy, sugary others. So we had talked about it a while ago, but the solution was to purchase a water bottle, one of those big ones that you see on the backs of trucks being delivered in the States. I had fond memories of using one the last time I was in China because it provided instant hot water and was a perfect means of re-constituting instant noodles. I only just recently realized, since it&#8217;s gotten to be summer and the weather is hot and humid in Beijing, that you can also get instant cold water and so have a nice refreshing beverage whenever called upon. But this was some time ago, the discussion I mean, about getting a big water bottle, so we revisited it recently and decided to actually go forward with it.</p>
<p>So in China, it&#8217;s a pretty easy thing to do. Just down our little alley there&#8217;s this guy that sells these big jugs of water. They weren&#8217;t open that day actually, so it was their loss, but we found another guy selling the exact same thing serendipitously actually on our way to the supermarket. Apparently they&#8217;re just everywhere, and they all do basically the same thing, and they all have a guy driving around a three wheeled bicycle that takes these things and delivers them to you. So we go into this little hole in the wall store, filled with big bottles of water, and the guy is very nice in that salesmen-sy kind of way and he lets us sample the water and he explains how it&#8217;s the best kind of water there is and he says they&#8217;re having a special where if you buy ten bottles they&#8217;ll give you two more for free. Whatever. The point though was that it was easy. He had the machines there that provided the instant hot and cold, he had the bottles of water, he had the guy to deliver and install it all, and a quick exchange of money later and we were on our way to fresh water heaven. We&#8217;ve a phone number to call whenever we need a new bottle and he&#8217;ll send the guy on his way, and he&#8217;ll maintain our water machine thingy for a year. Obviously the point&#8217;s a little moot since we&#8217;re hoping to move by the end of June, but apparently it&#8217;s a universal machine, capable of housing and carrying any and all kinds of big water bottles, so we&#8217;re good. It&#8217;s humming away happily as I write actually, and it breathes; every now and then you&#8217;ll hear it gurgling pleasantly. In short, everyone go get a water cooler! Huh&#8230;I just remembered that those things are called water coolers&#8230;</p>
<p>So that&#8217;s the bit of China that&#8217;s kind of non-bloggy and kind of expat-y and I hope it justifies my existence in the expat blog directory listing.</p>
<p>Since I last wrote we&#8217;ve also attended a friend&#8217;s wedding up in San Francisco. We needed to get out of the country anyways to enter on our next visa entry and Maria was running her first marathon in the States, which turned out very well. Fully expect to see some more milestone updates later on but at the moment I&#8217;m a little fuzzy on all the dates. But the wedding was nice, I got to see some of my family and Maria got to see an extensive bit of hers. We were apart for two weeks, and it killed me. That was when I was doing the whole nocturnal living thing as evidenced by my previous posts about biking in Beijing in the middle of the night. Not exactly the pinnacle of healthy living here. I&#8217;m hoping though for things to regain a semblance of sanity and normalcy soon.</p>
<p>The restaurant is also fast out of my hands, hopefully, I pray. Skipping over all the pertinent details because they&#8217;re not mine to disclose, but the headache and stress of having to deal with being in the food service industry may soon be behind me. That does mean I&#8217;m still out of a job, and have been for a while, and haven&#8217;t been paid by anybody for a really long while, and the whole process has still nevertheless sucked this transitioning out of my hands and will probably suck long after the actual transition takes place, but um, it&#8217;s still a load off, and will be even more so of one when I have my high paying power job that lets me live the life of luxury in this town, no sarcasm intended, obviously.</p>
<p>And speaking of jobs, I had the world&#8217;s worst interview today, ever. Not only was it for a job that I applied to a very long time ago and so now have absolutely no recollection whatsoever of what it was about, but they had layered themselves in so many different company names an recruiters and go betweens that I had no idea who I was even applying for a job with. It was an hour away by subway, out in the bums of nowhere, though it was really pretty, kind of tropical looking on the ride out due to it raining today, and when I get there I knew immediately it wasn&#8217;t going to work but had to still sit through it all, much to my general embarrassment. See, I knew at once that it was a Chinese company, without even a hint of foreign-ness to it. There were no English signs, there were no foreign employees, and you could just feel that tinge of Chinese laziness in the air where they hire a bunch of people with credentials on paper who all they do is the least necessary, if that. I&#8217;ll come out and say it now: the majority of Chinese employees try to get away with doing as little as possible. Maria just read somewhere recently that Chinese greed is only outweighed by Chinese laziness, and it&#8217;s true. There&#8217;s a whole floor of people sitting in cubicles, everyone looking at their own computer screens, all messing on the internet in one way or another, without so much as a word being spoken to anyone, without that sort of collaborative creativity and productivity one feels in US offices. Just with that, I knew I wouldn&#8217;t want the job, but apparently they didn&#8217;t want me either. Ah the other thing was the actual applications I had to fill out. First, there was a questionnaire and one of the questions was in Chinese; obviously a test of my literacy which I obviously failed. Second, all the boxes to fill in information like &#8220;name&#8221; or &#8220;relation&#8221; or &#8220;previous employer&#8217;s name&#8221; where too small; you couldn&#8217;t write the English in there even if you wanted to. Obviously meant to accept Chinese characters only, and obviously another count on which I failed. Then there were the questions about HTTP protocol and DNS lookups which I actually just don&#8217;t know, so obviously I&#8217;m not qualified for the job either but I don&#8217;t actually remember because it&#8217;s been ages since I first applied and these people put so many buffers between the actual job and me I went in completely blind. So there wasn&#8217;t even a real interview. Some guy came out, said thanks for coming out, said I probably wasn&#8217;t qualified, asked if I had any questions, and that was it. Hours of my life wasted in what is probably the biggest job interview fail of my life. I&#8217;ve been failing a lot really, and it&#8217;s kinda putting a crimp in my self esteem.</p>
<p>But the pluses do also exist. I&#8217;m doing some freelance programming work which allows me to flex some of my programming muscles. I&#8217;m doing some music work for pay as well and that&#8217;s always a good thing. There are a few social events on my calendar coming up with people whose company I enjoy, and I at least am very excited by my father&#8217;s and Maria&#8217;s business opportunities coming right over the horizon. I&#8217;m hoping for lots of good things from them.</p>
<p>A bigger short of it though is that I&#8217;m not entirely sure I&#8217;m happy, but I&#8217;m hoping to find what I need to fix that so that I can be, so that this opportunity which has been afforded me and which I have undertaken with Maria, my partner in all of this, will have ultimately been beneficial. Um&#8230;so that&#8217;s the meaning behind the title, actually. I&#8217;d like to enter a process of discovery and more specifically, rediscovery, of all the things in life that I love so that I can share them with the person I love.</p>
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		<title>Reflections on Chinese Men</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 03 Apr 2010 20:56:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Chinese men. Interesting creatures really. Often times easily mistaken for women due to the way they dress (skinny jeans, Louis Vuitton &#8220;murses,&#8221; Vertu &#8220;designer&#8221; cell phones, etc.), their mannerisms (&#8220;V&#8221; for victory hand signals), the style of their hair (long, colored, pink). Other times borderline homosexual due to the &#8220;camaraderie&#8221; they exhibit towards their fellow [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Chinese men. Interesting creatures really. Often times easily mistaken for women due to the way they dress (skinny jeans, Louis Vuitton &#8220;murses,&#8221; Vertu &#8220;designer&#8221; cell phones, etc.), their mannerisms (&#8220;V&#8221; for victory hand signals), the style of their hair (long, colored, pink). Other times borderline homosexual due to the &#8220;camaraderie&#8221; they exhibit towards their fellow men when found in groups (leaning over one another REALLY closely, arm over shoulders, etc.), though actual gay Chinese men are equally easy to distinguish. They also seem completely ignorant of women and sexuality, flirting awkwardly with any women that they see, but when pressed further about actual sexuality blushing most unbecomingly and lacking anything to say. Then there are those with &#8220;girlfriends&#8221; yet their dealings seem so, PG-13. Despite all their or rather these flaws though, they are the least concerning. What I&#8217;ve come to only recently be personally acquainted with as far as can be categorized as a flaw in the character of Chinese men is their DIS-regard towards women; they don&#8217;t seem to know how to treat them well. At best they ignore them and take them for granted, like when they&#8217;re out in a big group all getting dinner or something together somewhere and only brought their girlfriend/significant other/wife along for the ride and proceeds to pay no attention to them whatsoever. At worst they&#8217;re abusive, verbally and physically. I bring this up only because I&#8217;m having trouble with one of my waitstaff, my only male waitstaff at the moment. Since I&#8217;ve stepped back as full time manager, I appointed one of my female waitstaff the position of supervisor since she has the most experience working in a restaurant setting, speaks the best English, and seems to be most motivated to do her job and do it well. This meant that the waiter would be expected to listen to the waitress. Apparently this is a problem with him. He doesn&#8217;t seem able to take orders from a woman, and they&#8217;ve been having loud and lengthy arguments while I wasn&#8217;t around these past few weeks. I confronted him about this today, not in a very direct way, and his response was that &#8220;it&#8217;s not a big deal, you know how women get,&#8221; in Chinese of course; not quite the response I was hoping for. I told him to help me help my female supervisor, appealing to his sense of masculinity at wanting to &#8220;provide,&#8221; and I thought the matter was resolved. I had thought that all that was wrong was that he isn&#8217;t used to working this way yet, having a female authority figure, and that given time things will get better. Evidently I was wrong because I found out late last night that he got into another argument, this time with a another female waitstaff of mine, not even one in any position of power, and actually ended up physically hitting her multiple times. This is not acceptable behavior, and not behavior I would expect under any circumstances. So now I&#8217;m going to go and talk to all parties involved tomorrow morning, try to sort things out, with the most likely out come being that I&#8217;ll have to let him go, which puts me in a VERY difficult position because I will once again be short staffed until I hire and train his replacement. The point though is that I am rather disgusted at even the implication that he could have hit her, and this whole affair has just soured me even more on the restaurant, the food service industry, and Chinese men in general. I mean, normally they&#8217;re relatively cute and harmless creatures; but sometimes they make me weep for the state of women in this country.</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:21:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8230;or &#8220;why I suck at it.&#8221; So it&#8217;s quite late, and I&#8217;ve been tossing and turning in bed for a good while now. The issue is that I&#8217;ve been all of a sudden sick again, and it&#8217;s not been that great of an experience. I really do believe it&#8217;s due to the sudden changes in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8230;or &#8220;why I suck at it.&#8221;</p>
<p>So it&#8217;s quite late, and I&#8217;ve been tossing and turning in bed for a good while now. The issue is that I&#8217;ve been all of a sudden sick again, and it&#8217;s not been that great of an experience. I really do believe it&#8217;s due to the sudden changes in the weather and ambient temperature as opposed to any drastically low temperatures in and of itself; I don&#8217;t think my bodies knows what to do when things keep changing! It prepares and is ready for it to be warm or cold, but it can&#8217;t handle the shift, and so dies, metaphorically.</p>
<p>The point though, is that while I&#8217;ve been sick, I&#8217;ve been either not very productive at all, or decently productive on some of my web projects. So assuming I spend half my time productive, half of it not, and a good potion of the rest asleep or in a daze, accounting for time to spend with my Maria of course, I should have time left everyday to blog. Right? So why is it that I don&#8217;t, and why is it that it&#8217;s been nigh on three weeks since anyone&#8217;s updated this blog?</p>
<p>I think it has to do with the actual concept of blogging. Before now, as in, literally a couple of minutes ago, I was suffering quite contentedly in bed, unable to sleep, dreading the possibility that I might be disturbing Maria&#8217;s rest as well. And my mind was racing. I was thinking about my restaurant&#8217;s website (which isn&#8217;t up yet), my art website, which is up <a href="http://www.ftc-art.com/" target="_blank">here</a>, and some new stuff I&#8217;m planning to do for my choir, which, obviously, isn&#8217;t up either, neither is the West Campus site. Incidentally, this would be the first time I&#8217;m plugging my art website&#8230;everyone go and <a href="http://www.ftc-art.com/" target="_blank">look at it!</a> It represents the &#8220;best&#8221; of Beijing&#8217;s urban youth, or so the propaganda page tells me.</p>
<p>West Campus, incidentally, is a school I&#8217;m starting in Beijing! It will at first only offer year long intensive Chinese language and culture courses, hopefully starting Fall 2010, but will move on to offer full study abroad options for a liberal arts education, hopefully with a Fall 2011 availability so we can start searching for partner US institutions. Grandiose, no? They also get a website, one to provide information, brochures, contact information, and a way to register online&#8230;hmmm&#8230;I wonder if I&#8217;ll get paid for any of this web work; they&#8217;re all decently complicated&#8230;</p>
<p>Um&#8230;but yes my mind was racing, and I was even mentally ranting to myself, &#8220;hmmmm&#8230;this would make a good blog post.&#8221; So here I am, finally. Partly also due to he fact that I got tired of lying in bed unable to sleep and I wanted to spec. out the requirements for the IFC website.</p>
<p>So what this post will be about then is just a mish-mash of everything&#8217;s that&#8217;s been going on, with the hopes that it will make some greater sense, and that it will in some small way make up for the lack of anything interesting floating around here. Ah I&#8217;ve also modified the layout a bit to have static headers and footers; I&#8217;m not sure I like it&#8230;</p>
<p>So I think the restaurant&#8217;s a good place to start. We&#8217;re switching owners. My aunt and uncle, God bless them, are no longer going to be working with us, thank God. This means that we have to find somebody to buy out their 50% stake in the restaurant for $$$K, plus work out some way to repay the $$$K RMB that they &#8220;loaned&#8221; to the business to cover operational costs. Without going into too much of the details because I&#8217;m not entirely sure I&#8217;m at liberty to say at the moment, it&#8217;s being worked out, and it should be good. </p>
<p>What I am most excited about is the possibility of greater interactions with a local farm that my father is associated with. This should allow us to get good dairy and meat supplies, plus develop new foods like homemade cheese! I&#8217;ve been missing cheese in this country, and I have grandiose dreams of being Beijing&#8217;s one and only source for freshly made mozzarella. There is also the possibility that we may partner with another good friend of ours and jointly open yet another restaurant in the same complex as Connections. This will be a all vegetarian restaurant, specializing in fresh juices, fruit and vegetable cocktails, and entree size salads, something wholly lacking in this country. This will also entail greater cooperation with the farm as we will need to grow the entree salad vegetables, things like endive, mescalin, arugula, also things either lacking or inconsistent in this country, and which I will even admit to missing. Again, I have grandiose dreams of being Beijing&#8217;s one and only source for fresh, home grown, specialty vegetables.</p>
<p>I am also leaving my role as full time manager of the restaurant, mostly because it&#8217;s too time consuming. I have faith and confidence in my staff and the training I&#8217;ve provided them, and will still be on hand in a very part time manner, perhaps a couple of hours every other day. I&#8217;m going to promote on waitstaff and one cook to be my eyes, hands, and ears while I&#8217;m away, and they will be responsible in my absence. We&#8217;ve been kind of operating this way for the past week, mostly due to circumstance since I was sick, but also due to premeditation because I was just sick of being there 91 hours a week, and things seem quite smooth. Again, I have faith.</p>
<p>The only other thing interesting about the restaurant is that I think I&#8217;ve finalized with my choir, the IFC, the option of using Connections as their &#8220;home away from home,&#8221; or &#8220;home base,&#8221; the most pertinent bit of which would be the using of it as their ticket distribution hub. I needn&#8217;t tell you all the great benefits this entails. I had always wanted a stronger tie between the restaurant and my choir, and this provides it. Part of the reason why I got a piano for the restaurant was so that there can be impromptu rehearsals, sections, or other music related events, open mics, sing alongs, etc. that can happen at the restaurant and involve the choir. If I can be the one and only place to get tickets for our upcoming concerts, then that&#8217;s a step in the right direction. The website I&#8217;m spec&#8217;ing out for them is to give them the ability to handle online ticket sales on their own without using a third party service that charges an obscene service charge per transaction. Plus, it looks like my Epiphany music center idea may come to fruition at some point relatively soon as well, and all these things will work so well together I just know it.</p>
<p>Which is a great segue for that topic! I got Cary, my father&#8217;s business partner, interested in Epiphany. I think he&#8217;s always been half way interested, though no one&#8217;s taken the initiative to develop it really. My father had done some work, and I&#8217;ve built off of that to come to where we are now. Again, without going into too much details because I may not be at liberty to say, but it&#8217;ll be good, and it&#8217;ll be THE place to go for all your classical music needs in the &#8220;heart of Beijing&#8221; so to speak, or so the propaganda page states ;)</p>
<p>Also since I am no longer going to be the full time manager at the restaurant, I&#8217;m relegated myself to the status of &#8220;owner,&#8221; which means I get paid when the restaurant is profitable, or if and when that is. This means I&#8217;ve been on the prowl for a normal job, hopefully something in a programming vein. I had interviewed with and received a very decent job offer from Pixomondo, a visual effects company opening their Beijing office. Unfortunately, the timing had sucked because I was just getting deep into the running of the restaurant so I turned their offer down. Or more, I didn&#8217;t respond when they asked me if they could negotiate my offer with me&#8230;my defense on this issue is that I was really busy, as I&#8217;ve always been, and it was during New Years so things were extra hectic. But yes, I should have gotten back to them no matter what and it&#8217;s my bad for not. The point also being then that I feel awkward approaching them again since I sort of brushed them off earlier. I&#8217;ve also interviewed with Wokai.org, a micro-financing company. They&#8217;re in first round interviews, and they&#8217;re supposed to get back to me. And if any of you reading this know of any good PHP Programmer jobs, let me know! I&#8217;ve already been thinking about posting to this blog post photos of my new Connections menu, I think I&#8217;ll also post my resume. I NEED A JOB!!! PLEASE HELP!!!</p>
<p>Our visas are also expiring, again. This will be our, what, third entry? Haven&#8217;t figured out where to leave to yet, but need to soon, we have just under a week left to clear immigration. Part of the other reason a &#8220;normal&#8221; job sounds appealing is that they should be able to help me sort out my work visa issue. At the moment, the stand still is that VSM hasn&#8217;t gotten back to me yet on my employment verification letter, which is the last thing I need before one round of work visa applications with my father can be filed. They&#8217;ve sort of fallen off the face of the earth at the moment, I wonder if they&#8217;re alright&#8230;But since I&#8217;ve stepped back from the restaurant, this next trip promises to be much better, and longer, and more fun, I promise, my dearest Maria. I know I&#8217;ve been sucking lately, being sick, being busy, but I promise better times ahead.</p>
<p>Whoo I&#8217;m on a roll aren&#8217;t I! And real tag happy :)</p>
<p>Regarding Maria, since a lot I&#8217;m not at liberty to myself say, I will say that she did very well on the GMAT, finished her MBA applications to Tsinghua and BiMBA, is plowing her way through her Chinese government scholarships, was NOT late for any scholarships at Tsinghua or BiMBA, and has many promising projects coming up involving Chinese lawyer and my father. And that&#8217;s all I&#8217;ll say.</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s upload that menu now shall we? And don&#8217;t laugh at the over the top English; it hasn&#8217;t been edited yet.</p>

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<p>Let&#8217;s also get the resume uploaded shall we? <a href="http://www.textures-tones.com/wp-content/themes/greyville/files/SeanXLuo-Resume20091124.pdf" target="_blank">Download now</a></p>
<p>And now I&#8217;m feeling a little dehydrated and shaky. I should probably stop now as I think I&#8217;ve got most things covered, and those that I haven&#8217;t, I&#8217;ll try to list out real quick. I also need to upgrade this WordPress install before I&#8217;m finished.</p>
<p>1) We&#8217;re still looking for an apartment. We&#8217;ve had a reprieve because my mother&#8217;s not coming until June, but that&#8217;s feeling like it&#8217;ll be here real soon. We&#8217;re playing around with the option of living in the complex that Connections is in because we have so many things going on there (Connections, Epiphany, the new vegetarian restaurant), plus we also want to start our own business so it seems also appropriate, but there&#8217;s a lot of logistics involved with that mostly due to the fact that it&#8217;s commercial real estate and so is more expensive and lacking a kitchen and plumbing.<br />
2) My best friend from high school&#8217;s wedding is coming up in mid-May, so we&#8217;ll be both going back to the US around then. Maria&#8217;s going to go earlier, see some family, and run her first marathon in Cincinnati! I will, unfortunately, be unable to attend. But this should mean we&#8217;ll have exciting things to look forward to come October and the Beijing marathon :)<br />
3) I only need 40 some odd words to get to 2000 at this point, so I&#8217;m just stalling and rambling until then. It seems like a nice, round, number, and may very well be the longest blog post we&#8217;ve had. I had been toying with the idea of separating this one entry into multiple entries, and just post them all at the same time. But that also felt stupid. Not that this monster of a post isn&#8217;t stupid in and of itself, there&#8217;s just no lesser evil with those two choices&#8230;</p>
<p>Edit:</p>
<p>Already had to correct a couple of typos, and I just realize I never tested the new sites I&#8217;m developing in IE, because I don&#8217;t have access to IE anymore! I should get around to that huh&#8230;?</p>
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		<title>Chinese New Year 2010</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:31:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So it&#8217;s my first Chinese New Year spent in China actually, since I was little anyways. I wasn&#8217;t sure what to expect, and I&#8217;m still not entirely sure what to expect seeing as the festivities go on for a week apparently. I knew there were going to be fireworks, but not like this, and not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So it&#8217;s my first Chinese New Year spent in China actually, since I was little anyways. I wasn&#8217;t sure what to expect, and I&#8217;m still not entirely sure what to expect seeing as the festivities go on for a week apparently. I knew there were going to be fireworks, but not like this, and not in the street. There were people setting off huge explosions since early this morning right outside my apartment. And across the street from my restaurant. And on my way home as I walked. Frightening really; I&#8217;ve never been this close to fireworks or explosions before in my life. I could feel the particulate fall on my head&#8230;And loud as hell! Unlike US fireworks, these don&#8217;t seem to have been meant to be pretty and in the sky. Imagine a huge chain of explosives, that just blow up and spark and make a really loud noise and you&#8217;ll have the bulk of Chinese fireworks. Of course there&#8217;s the regular up in the sky &#8220;oh look how pretty&#8221; kind of fireworks as well, which have been going off non-stop since 5 minutes before midnight, so that would be over 35 minutes ago. And they&#8217;re still going, I&#8217;ll update the post when it&#8217;s done. But I wasn&#8217;t sure how this would affect my business, because a lot of people do go home for the holidays. It&#8217;s tradition that for Chinese New Year, you go home. The public transportation system&#8217;s been grinding to a halt with people unable to get plane or train tickets because everything&#8217;s full. I&#8217;ve had multiple foreign tourists come into my restaurant and tell me that they&#8217;re stuck here. So the city&#8217;s pretty empty, as empty as it can be I guess. And a lot of stores and restaurants are closed. The point being, I wasn&#8217;t sure if I&#8217;d have any business, and sure enough, today wasn&#8217;t that great of a day at the restaurant. It was fine, as a normal day goes, better than fine actually. But for a holiday, unlike the other holidays I&#8217;ve had where I&#8217;ve done great business like Christmas Eve or New Years. What is interesting is that definitely the Chinese have cleared out; my restaurant was filled with foreigners, though sometimes with their Chinese significant others. We shall see how the week plays out, whether I have business or not, whether I can stand the constant war zone noise outside my window. Seriously, it&#8217;s like the news footage of the Iraq war. I even took video, and am going to try uploading it here later for all to enjoy. If you have post traumatic stress disorder, be warned.</p>
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		<title>Onward to Seoul, again</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:48:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Which must mean that once again, our visas are about to expire. Apparently it&#8217;s gotten a lot harder than it used to since the Olympics for someone to get a F or Z visa. The F is the &#8220;foreigner in the country but looking for work&#8221; visa that would have let us stay for up [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Which must mean that once again, our visas are about to expire. Apparently it&#8217;s gotten a lot harder than it used to since the Olympics for someone to get a F or Z visa. The F is the &#8220;foreigner in the country but looking for work&#8221; visa that would have let us stay for up to a year without having to leave. The Z is the &#8220;foreigner in the country actually working&#8221; that would, and hopefully will, let us stay for up to two years without having to leave. And it&#8217;s the appropriate one to have. Although it seems quite likely now that Maria may even get a student visa through her MBA program, but best not to give up any current pursuits in case anything else falls through.</p>
<p>But, like the title says, it means we&#8217;re off to Seoul, again, tomorrow, for even less time than last; we leave Thursday, come back Friday. The tightness of the travel schedule had originally been to accommodate an activity the IFC was going to participate in. They had been asked to perform on Beijing TV, nationally broadcast no less, but the BTV people wanted a large showing of foreigners, and what with it being the holiday season and all the IFC just couldn&#8217;t scrounge up enough singers, though of course I signed up since I have no life and no reason to leave, though I kind of do actually; it&#8217;ll be nice to get to go to Bangkok. Either way, they cancelled on me last week, after I&#8217;d already gotten our airplane tickets, so what can you do.</p>
<p>Since we&#8217;ve been there before though, we&#8217;re kind of nixing the whole &#8220;tourist in Korea&#8221; thing and opted to stay in a hotel real close to the airport and will just camp there. It should be fine; Maria managed to find a very nice looking place for a good price. Hopefully we won&#8217;t have to run this whole gamut again, and the only thing we&#8217;ll have to do is leave the country so we can enter on our working visas. Though that in and of itself may be difficult as the process seems to be, as mentioned before, much more difficult than before, and we will most likely need to return to the States of all places to get it.</p>
<p>So it used to be easy, very easy. There&#8217;s a whole long list of things you need to apply for one, ranging from a translated resume, a translated offer letter, and the offer letter needs to be for a &#8220;fancy&#8221; position signed by a &#8220;fancy&#8221; executive of the company inviting you. Oh, your resume needs to be &#8220;fancy&#8221; too so it seems justified that your skills are needed. All these things in the past used to just be for show but apparently someone actually looks at it nowadays. They want our ORIGINAL college degrees (pain in the ass), and they need actual signed work verification letters from EVERY employer on your resume. Can&#8217;t be emailed, can&#8217;t be faxed, can&#8217;t be copied; needs to be the actual damned thing. So we&#8217;re left in the position where ok, I&#8217;ve a lot of employers on my resume so that it can be &#8220;fancy,&#8221; but I don&#8217;t want to track down all of them and ask them for this silly work verification letter. Sigh. On top of all this there&#8217;s a health inspection that we needed to have done, and have; thankfully that was relatively painless, and it&#8217;s convenient to know we&#8217;re healthy, though it was expensive for just a sheet of paper. And they really go over board with the health inspection! They took lots of blood, did an EKG, did an ultrasound, took an x-ray, checked your hearing, vision, general physical health. Sigh, again. It&#8217;s in process is the point. A long process.</p>
<p>Ugh and it&#8217;s gonna be so expensive to have to leave the country this many times! There&#8217;s Miguel&#8217;s wedding, there&#8217;s Kelly&#8217;s wedding, and some time between the two there&#8217;s the last time we have to leave the country back to the States to get our working visas. It&#8217;s actually I just don&#8217;t want to go to the States heh. And I&#8217;m sick again damnit. This city has been very cold lately, so business also sucks. Heh and I haven&#8217;t had time to blog so I&#8217;m doing it now.</p>
<p>Business is actually alright. It&#8217;s surprising but for a restaurant in China to be profitable it just needs to make 1500RMB a day. That&#8217;s just over 200$. It sounds small, but when you&#8217;re only charging 30RMB per dish, you&#8217;d need to serve 50 people at least, per day, which given how cold it is, is no mean feat. Ah either way.</p>
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		<title>Some forward momentum</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:57:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So there&#8217;s been some progress, as can be noted by my and our general absence from this blog. First, my IFC (International Festival Chorus) Messiah concert has been postponed until the 19th of December. Apparently they&#8217;ve been having more and more problems getting government approval to perform Handel&#8217;s Messiah in a public venue, and it [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So there&#8217;s been some progress, as can be noted by my and our general absence from this blog. </p>
<p>First, my IFC (International Festival Chorus) Messiah concert has been postponed until the 19th of December. Apparently they&#8217;ve been having more and more problems getting government approval to perform Handel&#8217;s Messiah in a public venue, and it was going to be a <a href="http://www.zsyyt.com/" target="_blank">GREAT venue</a> (sorry, Chinese site only, but it does illustrate just how weird Chinese web URLs are: www.zxyyt.com, it&#8217;s the first letter of the each Chinese character as written using English letters). So what they&#8217;re going to have to do now is perform it on the sly, at an independent location, specifically the International School of Beijing. Apparently it&#8217;s a big deal, the Messiah I mean, and subject to lots of government scrutiny before it&#8217;s allowed to be performed. Either way. This just means it pushes off my performances and rehearsals a bit.</p>
<p>Secondly, thanks to my connection with the IFC, I am also performing at the British Embassador&#8217;s Residence, singing Christmas carols. We&#8217;re also &#8220;performing&#8221;/&#8221;rehearsing&#8221; at the Bookworm, a coffee shop in Sanlitun, the bar area of Beijing, this coming Thursday for either &#8220;Beethoven Basics&#8221; or &#8220;Basic Beethoven&#8221; or something like that, for their classical music open mic night. Who knew such things existed huh? Sanlitun itself is weird, and not quite my cup of tea. There&#8217;s this huge &#8220;Village&#8221; complex they&#8217;re building, basically a tricked out shopping promenade, with massive numbers of massive stores. We&#8217;re talking three stories of Nike and the world&#8217;s largest Apple store; completely out of the locals price range, but trendy, I guess. Um, what was my point?</p>
<p>Right, thirdly, I&#8217;ve actually signed a contract with Connections. I am their full time manager now, for the next year, unless terminated in writing with 45 days notice. The restaurant is for most intents and purposes ready. We&#8217;re just missing staff and suppliers. There&#8217;s still a big part of me that&#8217;s unsure of whether or not I should really be continuing with this, but that&#8217;s all part of some much larger general concerns of mine regarding my relative success or actually lack there of since we&#8217;ve been in China and the almost irrational and unreasonable way that I am treated or considered by my parents and extended family that I will not get into here.</p>
<p>Fourthly, we saw 2012 in theaters. This is Maria&#8217;s first time, and only my second. So in China, apparently, the movies are expensive as hell by local standards (35 RMB/5 USD on a weeknight, 75 RMB/11 USD on a weekend), you pick out your seats before hand and they&#8217;re assigned, if there are any English subtitles in the original movie you can kiss those good bye (which actually means we&#8217;ll need to watch 2012 again since there were lots of time when people were speaking other languages that we have no idea what was going on because there&#8217;s only the Chinese subtitles), and before the credits even begin rolling, the lights come on, the movie is over, and the theater empties. No staying for the credits in this town.</p>
<p>Fifthly, and related to the &#8220;Fourthly,&#8221; we wandered around Wanfujing a good bit. It&#8217;s about 5 miles from our apartment, and we wanted a walk, and I hadn&#8217;t been there in a while and I remembered that there was a movie theater there, so we headed out. We passed what the internet is apparently calling the &#8220;night market&#8221; which is this long city block of nothing but street food, most prevalent of which were things on skewers, with an emphasis on the weird and gross, like still moving scorpions, starfish, sea urchins, bug &#8220;pods,&#8221; various internal organs, etc. The place has really gussied up since last I was there. A couple of new shopping malls have opened, all selling high end durable goods. What we&#8217;ve come to realize is that brands that in the stores one would find only in department stores, for some reason have their own massive stores. They definitely like their things big.</p>
<p>And lastly, construction at the apartment should be finishing up relatively soon, within the week actually. Which means that for once, and finally, we will have a place that is all our own, livable and clean. Thank god for small favors.</p>
<p>And as a side note, we&#8217;ll be revisiting some of these things and hopefully that means there&#8217;ll be pictures!</p>
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		<title>Sick, Weather, IFC, Maria Runs, Updates</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:26:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sean</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[(Sick) So I&#8217;m sick, and have been for a few days. And I realize now that a good many of my blog posts begins with the word &#8220;So.&#8221; I wonder why that is&#8230;But I think it&#8217;s the weather. (Weather) It was like this when I was in New York; as the seasons noticeably change, I [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>(Sick)<br />
So I&#8217;m sick, and have been for a few days. And I realize now that a good many of my blog posts begins with the word &#8220;So.&#8221; I wonder why that is&#8230;But I think it&#8217;s the weather. </p>
<p>(Weather)<br />
It was like this when I was in New York; as the seasons noticeably change, I would get sick. This meant once when the summer months ended and winter began, and again when winter ends and it starts to warm. I probably got lucky the year and a half or so I was last in LA because there are no noticeable season changes there. But here, in Beijing, wow; it was quite warm when we first arrived, then all of a sudden, snow! Photos to follow incidentally. It&#8217;s been like that since the end of the month. It&#8217;s actually quite appropriate really, as November began, so did winter.</p>
<p>(Sick)<br />
But I don&#8217;t like being sick. It throws off my sleeping schedule because I just sleep when I&#8217;m tired, and that happens at random intervals during the day. Other times I just can&#8217;t sleep because of the symptoms, like now. And in general, I&#8217;m just completely sapped of energy. I do think I&#8217;m getting better though. One of the good things about China is that most drugs are over the counter, including antibiotics. I&#8217;m taking those, and some other random Chinese medicine, to good general effect.</p>
<p>(Maria Runs)<br />
Maria&#8217;s been getting more and more adventurous in her running lately. We&#8217;ve uploaded maps of her runs for anyone who&#8217;s interested.</p>
<p>(IFC)<br />
I auditioned for and successfully got in to the <a href="http://beijingifc.org/" target="_blank">Beijing International Festival Chorus</a>! I was actually very nervous for some reason. I&#8217;m actually always nervous during auditions, never so during rehearsals or performances, but something about auditions rattles me. It looks pretty interesting, and the venue that they perform in is quite grand. They&#8217;re also very English which I find very amusing. The first rehearsal is tomorrow and though I am sick, I doubt I&#8217;m contagious, and I&#8217;d very much like to get back into the swing of things. Part of why I may have been nervous as Maria points out is that it&#8217;s been over a year and a half since I last sang. A pity really. I also hope to join their smaller group, the International Festival Chamber Choir. I don&#8217;t know much about hem yet though, but it seems like an added opportunity to sing and perform, which is always good.</p>
<p>(Updates)<br />
As far as general updates go, I&#8217;ve been obviously a little bit absent from the renovation work going on at Connections Bar and Grill. Incidentally, the IFC people had heard of my restaurant! A testament to our current marketing scheme! I foresee great things in the future; this looks to be the start of a beautiful friendship! The schedule is still set though; we will open in one week. Next week will be the all important perfecting of our recipes, our new supply lines, and the hiring of new employees. As my father put it, I missed some of the craziness this week, but there&#8217;s plenty more next week, and it&#8217;ll all be mine. Yay. [insert sarcasm tag] I keep going over and over the operations of the restaurant in my mind, and it scares me.</p>
<p>You see, unlike in the States, where restaurant layouts make sense, apparently in China, regulations prohibit such things as a large open kitchen where one person can have easy access to all the supplies, utensils, plates, and cooking. You need a separate room, with its own wall separating it, for your dish washing and your produce preparation. This means that for one person to operate the kitchen in its entirety is for most intents and purposes impossible. That one cook will have to go to the &#8220;salad prep&#8221; room to get the produce ready, then go to the kitchen to cook everything, then go to the &#8220;dish washing&#8221; room to get the necessary plates before putting it all together. Apparently it&#8217;s a hygiene regulation.</p>
<p>So to get around this, I&#8217;m thinking we&#8217;ll keep the separate rooms because we have to, but just not use them. It just means there&#8217;s a lot of pressure on the cook, a.k.a. me, to make sure all the prep is done in the mornings and MOVED into the kitchen so that I won&#8217;t have to keep running back and forth between quite distant places&#8230;I&#8217;m thinking, down the line, once the restaurant is highly successful, a complete and utter overhaul of the kitchen will be needed. We&#8217;ll speak of this when the time is appropriate.</p>
<p>As far as renovations go at my apartment, I think we&#8217;ve hit a snag. Apparently it&#8217;s out of my hands, as it should since these are my mother&#8217;s renovations, but I think they&#8217;re doing it wrong. The plan was to rebuild the sun-room, this nice, enclosed patio type space on the second floor. There was some water damage because the roof was leaking, so they were supposed to tear it all apart, and redo it. Well the tearing apart went fine, but it looks like they&#8217;re walling up the windows! They&#8217;re just turning it into&#8230;a room. I doubt that&#8217;s what my mother had in mind. The problem with informing her is that this construction is already way behind schedule; they were supposed to be done by November 1st. And now if it looks like they&#8217;re doing it all wrong and will have to do it again but correctly, it&#8217;s just going to take even longer, and I just can&#8217;t wait for the day where I won&#8217;t have to worry about construction workers trampling through my home!</p>
<p>I think that&#8217;s all for now&#8230;I&#8217;m going to sort out some beautiful photos of Beijing in the snow and upload them next.</p>
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		<title>How NOT to make a burger</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 07:15:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ingredients: 200 g (.46 lbs) extra-lean hamburger patty, pre-formed, individually-wrapped 1 sesame bun, preferably frozen Shredded white &#8220;cheese&#8221; &#8220;Pickles,&#8221; otherwise known as ZhaCai, literally &#8220;Pressed Vegetables&#8221; (no dill was harmed in the making of this pickle) Garnish: 1 lettuce leaf, sliced tomatoes and onions Seasoning: Salt, pepper, Worcestershire sauce, red cooking wine, cooking oil Equipment: [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ingredients:</p>
<ul>
<li>200 g (.46 lbs) extra-lean hamburger patty, pre-formed, individually-wrapped</li>
<li>1 sesame bun, preferably frozen</li>
<li>Shredded white &#8220;cheese&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;Pickles,&#8221; otherwise known as <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zha_cai" target="_blank">ZhaCai</a>, literally &#8220;Pressed Vegetables&#8221; (no dill was harmed in the making of this pickle)</li>
<li>Garnish: 1 lettuce leaf, sliced tomatoes and onions</li>
<li>Seasoning: Salt, pepper, Worcestershire sauce, red cooking wine, cooking oil</li>
</ul>
<p>Equipment:</p>
<ul>
<li>Spatula</li>
<li>Saute pan and lid</li>
<li>Stove</li>
<li>Microwave</li>
<li>Pizza oven</li>
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<p>Directions:</p>
<ul>
<li>Season both sides of patty with liberal amounts of Seasoning</li>
<li>Put patty in saute pan on high heat</li>
<li>Cover with lid to cook</li>
<li>When bottom looks &#8220;done,&#8221; flip, cover, and repeat</li>
<li>When both sides look &#8220;done,&#8221; put in microwave for 1-2 minutes at your discretion</li>
<li>Put back in saute pan to cook away any excess liquids that may have escaped while microwaving</li>
<li>At this point, put sesame bun into pizza oven to defrost/toast</li>
<li>Sprinkle top of patty lightly with &#8220;cheese,&#8221; then put into pizza oven to melt</li>
<li>Wait 2 minutes for everything to finish in the pizza oven</li>
<li>Place patty between sesame bun, top with Garnish, and you&#8217;re done!</li>
</ul>
<p>To serve:</p>
<ul>
<li>Prepare a small pile of deep-fried, frozen french fries</li>
<li>Create an elaborately European, but small, side salad, complete with vegetable &#8220;towers&#8221; and hash-patterned drizzles of dressing</li>
<li>Arrange everything delicately in quadrants on a square plate</li>
<li>Provide an individual crock of ketchup</li>
</ul>
<p>Promise: This will NOT be how I serve my new hamburgers at Connections Bar &#038; Grill. I just wanted to show just how far we&#8217;ve come and in such a short time.</p>
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